Over the past couple of weeks I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to provide professional presentations on employee wellness and how to build a successful career.  During the preparation for those presentations and their delivery one thing became abundantly clear to me.  And, that is every small aspect of our lives shape us into who we were, who we are, and who we will become. 

If I asked you to describe yourself, what would the first words that you used say about who you are?  Would you lead with I’m a mother, father, aunt, uncle, son, or daughter?  Or, possibly a good friend?  Or, would you begin with your profession and describing what that means to you?  I don’t believe there is a right or wrong answer, but what I’m learning is that one of these does not and cannot exist without the others if we are meant to be whole. 

The truth is that for many years I was career focused.  So much so that I let it be a major root to my happiness.  I would later find out, though, that this is not sustainable.  Again, one part can’t exist without the other.  For me, it was a series of events in my personal life that changed my perspective.  For others it might be something else.  But, chances are a day will come when you will be left seeking something more.  And, that can be scary and exciting at the same time. 

My more was realizing that I was compartmentalizing my life way too much.  I wasn’t allowing the mixing pot to exist with friends, family, work, and my other hobbies and interests.  I was living one chapter at a time instead of presenting the entire manuscript.  And, while it was possible, it was not fulfilling.  There was always something missing.

Truth is in many ways I’m still on a journey of exploration, but have found some things that fuel each and every aspect of my life.  I’ve learned that music and writing is a cornerstone to who I am.  I’ve learned that my family is extremely important to me and I love the times we get together.  And, I’ve learned that my friends (many of whom blend in as family) are essential to my well-being.  They not only are key pieces in the puzzle of life, they fuel my interests, encourage me in my adventures, and provide a richness that life should have.  And, I’ve learned to lean more into my passions, not fear the results, and to focus on what I can do to help others.  I used to talk about helping others, being a voice of compassion, etc.  Now, I’m putting it into action.

What about you?  Where are you in your journey?  Are you just in the “figuring it out” stage, the “seeking more” stage, or maybe the “I have no idea” stage?  Regardless, I hope you can take a moment to ponder what is most important.  I hope you can let go of worry about what others think or meeting some kind of made up standard.  I hope you can, well, just be you!!!!  

May this week be the start of whatever is next for you and may you enjoy every step along the way!!!!